Trauma experienced during adulthood can affect how we feel about ourselves as well as our relationships with others, but the effects are more likely to be difficult to recover from if we have also experienced trauma during childhood.
When we have faced violence in the home or neglect as an infant or young person and then we experience a traumatic event in later life, we may find ourselves feeling extreme distress. Symptoms such as anxiety, depression, angry outbursts or unexplained crying may be experienced, sometimes with the flashbacks, intrusive thoughts and nightmares of Post Traumatic Stress (PTSd).
A traumatic event can range from the break up of a relationship, the death of a loved one, a birth experience that was not what was hoped for, to sexual assault, domestic violence or military combat.
Becoming a parent may trigger memories or feelings about how we ourselves were parented or cared for during our early years, and when this has not gone well, our mental health can also become compromised. This in turn can have an impact on our relationships with our children.
Men and women who are in transition from the armed forces or from the criminal justice system may particularly experience additional pressures on family relationships and in maintaining emotional wellbeing, whether as a new parent or in later life circumstances.
The support of family and friends can be key to helping recovery from trauma and PTSd, some Counselling Connect CIC services are available for spouses/partners too.